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In the next few pages I’m going to “reframe” your reality … a little — but enough to give you some big “Ah-Ha!” moments.

I’m going to show you how to declutter your mind. So you stop the worry and experience peace in situations that create anxiety and stress

Truth is, we all have unwanted emotions.

Stress, unworthiness, social anxiety, insecurity, anger, sadness, or a sense of lack. These unwanted emotions seem as though they are inevitable. They seem as though they come from circumstances, situations, and the people in our lives.

But the fact is, these emotions come from the thoughts in your mind. And further more, they CAN vanish in an instant if you stop believing the thoughts that create them.

Your thoughts only create emotions when you believe them.

There is nothing wrong with you. You are not broken. There is nothing to fix.

If you can see what it means to be human and how we create our experiences, you’ll see that you don’t need to go looking for any new “shiny-objects”…

… you already have everything you need!

 

That, right there, should be your first big “Ah-Ha!” moment.

Here’s something else to think about…

A while back, I was clicking though one of Andre Chaperon’s websites: .. and he was telling a story about Vanuatu. I thought i’d borrow a few things from him to share here with you because something in that story resonated with me…

Vanuatu is a group of 65 inhabited islands in the South Pacific Ocean. It is the 4th happiest place in the world according to the Happy Planet Index.

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Vanuatu is said to be the Pacific’s best-kept secret. The ocean is blue. The beaches are white and empty and the smiles of the NiVan (the natives) are big and plentiful.

It is a mix of comfortable to luxury lodging — with an authentic and fascinating culture

Andre was reading a copy of ISLANDS magazine (July/Aug 2010). On page 66 he read something that kinda blew his mind.

One of the featured islands of the “20 Best Islands To Live On” was Vanuatu. But it was the entry requirements (to live in Vanuatu) that got him thinking

You see … at the time of reading, you only needed to earn $3,000/mo (transferred to a local bank). There’s also a $400/yr fee for a Standard Residence Permit. Err … and that’s it.

If you wanted to buy a place — a 4 bedroom beachfront house would have set you back around $198K. Yeah … that’s sooooo not expensive (in contrast to a lot of other places in the world).

I’ve lived in London where a 1 bedroom apartment can go for £600K…. (approximately $790K).

What resonated for me about this story was that our perception of what we need, to get what we desire, is sometimes skewed.

we make mistaken assumptions about a lot things and then take action from that place of error.

If for you, blissful living and being happy involves swinging in a palm-strung hammock while the ocean swooshes gently onto a white-sand beach nearby … then perhaps a place like Vanuatu will suit you down to the ground.

Point is … this page is not about convincing you to move to a remote island somewhere (unless you want to).

It’s about getting you to see that a lot of the assumptions and perceptions you have about yourself and what is possible, are not accurate

I’m using Vanuatu as an illustration of what most believe we need for peace of mind and a blissful life.

My aim is to “reframe” your perception somewhat. And then show you how easy it is to create the feeling of peaceful silence right now – no matter what is going on around you

Your “Vanuatu” can be whatever you want it to be

It could be feeling more in control of what’s happening in your life rather than feeling like you’re always “fire fighting” and responding to things happing to you.

Or, it could be feeling more confident about your life – even when you don’t have any concrete plans in place. Rather than looking looking for ways to “escape” from your life – using outside sources like binge eating, alcohol etc…. that numb you from the chaos for short periods of time.

maybe It could be having better relationships with everyone around you. Instead of the constant fights and drama.

Your “Vanuatu” is whatever destination you want it to be

 

A lot of people kill themselves with non-stop action. They practice endless techniques and strategies for keeping themselves `happy’ and `successful’.

Why? Because they “think” that’s what they they need to do to survive the shit that “life” dishes up to them.

Because they think if they push hard enough against what they don’t want, it will go away and what they want will finally come in.

In the next few pages I’m going to lay out a simple understanding. One that I use to cut down on the anxiety and stress to create wellbeing at all times.

A better understanding of how we experience the world, is the key to connecting with our innate well-being – without doing anything.

You can take yourself off the hook. No more to do lists. No more feeling bad for dropping the ball. No more constant tasks of keeping yourself in a good place or trying to be happy

Let’s start.