Most of us make decisions based on how we feel rather than on the facts of where we are in relation to where you want to be.
So for example:
If I met a new client and asked:
“How are things going with your business?”
I could get an answer like:
“Oh they’re amazing!
I met an investor who can fund 90% of the project so things are moving quickly.
I’m feeling positive about it”
A day later I could ask:
“How are things going?”
And I could get an answer like:
“On not great at all.
Things aren’t working out as I thought.
The investor pulled out and it seems like the project is never going to take off.
I feel like such a failure and I don’t know if it’s such a good idea to continue with this.”
In this scenario, the decision on whether to not to continue is not based on fact but more on emotion and feelings.
But time and again, in all my years of bringing impossible things to life here’s what I know for sure:
Facts ALWAYS trump feelings.
And there are 2 key facts that you always need when it comes to how to make a decision that guarantees results.
When it comes to decision making, these are the only 2 questions you want to ask yourself at any given moment.
Let’s tackle the first question.
When you’re talking about where you are NOW, focus only on the facts regardless of how you feel.
“I have made 10 calls and I have 50 calls left to make”
“I have sold 10 units and I have 100 units to go”
“I have called the insurance company and I have X left to do”
Why do your feelings not matter?
Because they are temporary.
They’re always changing based on your changing perception of events as they occur.
If you “think” you’re doing okay, then you feel good.
But if you “think” you’re doing badly, then you feel bad.
It doesn’t matter if what you “think” is true or not.
The fact that the thought passes through your mind, is what creates the feeling.
That’s the way it works.
In this case, what is temporary and variable are your thoughts and feelings.
At any given moment, based on new information that you get, your thoughts keep shifting.
They are fluid and they never stand still.
As your perception changes, your feelings change along with it.
This is how we all operate as human beings.
It is how our mind works.
But what stays the same are the facts of the situation.
If you’ve only sold 10 widgets and still have 90 left to sell,
This is a fact that will never change.
No matter what your thoughts and feelings are about the 10 widgets you’ve sold or the 90 that you have left to sell.
Or your feelings about anything else for that matter.
So the decisions that you have to make can’t depend on your feelings but on the facts of :
It’s true, you don’t need to have all the answers.
Especially when it has to do with where you want to go (which is the second question you need to answer to make your decision.)
That’s what your innate wisdom is there for.
It is part of WHO you are and It is what helps lay the path of least resistance to get you to your destination.
But like the GPS in your car,
Once you have these 2 pieces of the puzzle,
That’s when ideas and solutions present themselves.
And that’s when the next step and the next and so forth show themselves.
That’s also when things begin to look like a no-brainer.
And as W.H Murray said:
“all manner of unforeseen incidents, meeting and material assistance, which no man have dreamt would have come his way”
Your innate wisdom is 100 percent reliable, even if you’re never sure HOW it is going to turn up.
And it’s not that you don’t know WHERE you want to be.
You’re simply focusing on momentary feelings and emotions.
Also, you’re trying to predict the future when you’re focused on those temporary feelings and emotions.
So inevitably, you’ll end up “feeling stuck” and unable to know how to make a decision.
Because in one moment, the future could look bright and rosy, so you’ll make a decision based on that.
And in the next moment, another thought will cross your mind ( as it does for us all),
This time it may be a thought with a scary flavour.
So you’ll start feeling apprehensive and uncertain because of that thought.
You’ll change your mind and make another decision.
And that’s when you start looking for outside validation because you’re thinking and “feeling” a lot things.
But as I’ve said before and i’ll say again:
Your feelings can only make you feel good or scare you silly moment by moment.
But they aren’t what create the outcome nor do they get us to our desired destination.
Clarity comes when you stick to the facts of where you are at this moment and where you want to be.
Your next step in the journey shows itself when you have a clear mind and know :
Our true nature as human begins means that we’re always feeling our thinking.
Thoughts flow through our mind about all manner of things and we feel those thoughts.
However, true freedom comes, when you can see that you are NOT your momentary thoughts and feelings…
And when you look beyond those momentary thoughts and feelings, you’ll see what remains constant for you and everyone else…
Your innate wisdom.
And when you show up and engage as best as you can with the facts,
Your innate wisdom will show up with you to fill in the gaps and help lay the path to your destination.
I’m Elizabeth Archibong. A Nigerian girl obsessed setting the rules on fire to create life and results from a place of ease and a path of least resistance. I teach people how to see themselves more simply and accurately. So that they can create and get more of the things that they want.