How to make a decision: One fool-proof method that guarantees results.

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How to make a decision: One fool-proof method that guarantees results.
When it comes to decision making, the one thing we all have in common is a sense of what we WANT.
 
We may not be clear on the details but on some level, we know what we want from any situation that we’re in.
 
But the problem comes when we have to make decisions to determine the actions that will get us to where we want to be.
 
Today, I’m going to show you a fool-proof method  to simplify the process for making decisions and get you moving to your destination quickly.

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Facts (not feelings) are best for making decisions in life.

Most of us make decisions based on how we feel rather than on the facts of where we are in relation to where you want to be.

So for example:
If I met a new client and asked:

“How are things going with your business?”

I could get an answer like:

“Oh they’re amazing!

I met an investor who can fund 90% of the project so things are moving quickly.

I’m feeling positive about it”

A day later I could ask:

“How are things going?”

And I could get an answer like:

“On not great at all.

Things aren’t working out as I thought.

The investor pulled out and it seems like the project is never going to take off.

I feel like such a failure and I don’t know if it’s such a good idea to continue with this.”

In this scenario, the decision on whether to not to continue is not based on fact but more on emotion and feelings.

But time and again, in all my years of bringing impossible things to life here’s what I know for sure:

Facts ALWAYS trump feelings.

And there are 2 key facts that you always need when it comes to how to make a decision that guarantees results.

Where are you now and where do you want to be?

When it comes to decision making, these are the only 2 questions you want to ask yourself at any given moment. 

Let’s tackle the first question.

When you’re talking about where you are NOW,  focus only on the facts regardless of how you feel.

For example:

“I have made 10 calls and I have 50 calls left to make”
“I have sold 10 units and I have 100 units to go”
“I have called the insurance company and I have X left to do”

Why do your feelings not matter?

Because they are temporary.
They’re always changing based on your changing perception of events as they occur.

If you “think” you’re doing okay, then you feel good.

But if you “think” you’re doing badly, then you feel bad.

It doesn’t matter if what you “think” is true or not.

The fact that the thought passes through your mind, is what creates the feeling.

That’s the way it works.

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How to make a decision starts with getting clear on what is constant versus what is temporary and variable...

In this case, what is temporary and variable are your thoughts and feelings.

At any given moment, based on new information that you get, your thoughts keep shifting.

They are fluid and they never stand still.

As your perception changes, your feelings change along with it.

This is how we all operate as human beings.

It is how our mind works.

But what stays the same are the facts of the situation.

If you’ve only sold 10 widgets and still have 90 left to sell,

This is a fact that will never change.

No matter what your thoughts and feelings are about the 10 widgets you’ve sold or the 90 that you have left to sell.

Or your feelings about anything else for that matter.

So the decisions that you have to make can’t depend on your feelings but on the facts of :

  • Where you are now
  • And where you want to be

You don't need to have all the answers for your decision making process.

It’s true, you don’t need to have all the answers.

Especially when it has to do with where you want to go (which is the second question you need to answer to make your decision.)

That’s what your innate wisdom is there for.

It is part of WHO you are and  It is what helps lay the path of least resistance to get you to your destination.

But like the GPS  in your car,

  • It needs to know where to want to go (your final destination point).
  • And it also needs to know that you’re clear about where you are RIGHT NOW. (current location)

Once you have these 2 pieces of the puzzle,

That’s when ideas and solutions present themselves.

And that’s when the next step and the next and so forth show themselves.

That’s also when things begin to look like a no-brainer.

And as W.H Murray said:

“all manner of unforeseen incidents, meeting and material assistance, which no man have dreamt would have come his way”

Your innate wisdom is 100 percent reliable, even if you’re never sure HOW it is going to turn up.

It's not that you don't know how to make decisions, it's that you're looking in the wrong direction for answers.

And it’s not that you don’t know WHERE you want to be.
You’re simply focusing on momentary feelings and emotions.

Also, you’re trying to predict the future when you’re focused on those temporary feelings and emotions.

So inevitably, you’ll end up “feeling stuck” and unable to know how to make a decision.

Because in one moment, the future could look bright and rosy, so you’ll make a decision based on that.

And in the next moment,  another thought will cross your mind ( as it does for us all),

This time it may be a thought with a scary flavour.

So you’ll start feeling apprehensive and uncertain because of that thought.

You’ll change your mind and make another decision.

And that’s when you start looking for outside validation because you’re thinking and “feeling” a lot things. 

But as I’ve said before and i’ll say again:

Your feelings can only make you feel good or scare you silly moment by moment.

But they aren’t what create the outcome nor do they get us to our desired destination.

Clarity comes when you stick to the facts of where you are at this moment and where you want to be. 

Your next step in the journey shows itself when you have a clear mind and know :

  • where you are.
  • and where you want to go.

Conclusion

Our true nature as human begins means that we’re always feeling our thinking.

Thoughts flow through our mind about all manner of things and we feel those thoughts.

However, true freedom comes, when you can see that you are NOT your momentary thoughts and feelings…

And when you look beyond those momentary thoughts and feelings, you’ll see what remains constant for you and everyone else…

Your innate wisdom.

And when you show up and engage as best as you can with the facts,

Your innate wisdom will show up with you to fill in the gaps and help lay the path to your destination.

Always.

 

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2 Replies to “How to make a decision: One fool-proof method that guarantees results.”

  1. This was exactly what i needed to hear….
    Ive always acted on my emotions, telling me that i liked or didnt like a situation or didnt feel ready yet about a step.
    How can we use our emotions than? Law of attraction teachers always say to listen to our emotions and move to a better feeling state and from there to make decisions. I guess i tool things all wrong because ive been stuck for the past 2 years
    😓

    1. Hey Arlette,
      Don’t be too hard on yourself. It’s an honest mistake most of us make when it comes to feelings. We’re never really stuck. It just feels that way because we’re holding onto certain thoughts and have made them into navigational systems for ourselves. Your emotions don’t really say or mean anything else about any situation you face. They simply add depth and flavour to your experience. They are temporary and are attached to the thoughts passing through you in each moment. They will pass by themselves. That’s how the system works. You just have to give yourself permission to feel the emotions without attaching meaning to them and then let them pass. So you can get back to your core nature of innate calm.

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