I think we can all agree that from time to time we all end up feeling overwhelmed about one thing or another.
But for some that are dealing with anxiety, the feeling of being buried or drowning beneath the huge mass of what they face seems greater.
But it doesn’t have to be that way.
I’m going to show you 5 power strategies that cut through the drama to allow you create tangible results every time.
Let’s get started.
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Busyness focuses on time served. It focuses on how many things you’ve done and it is the fastest way to feeling overwhelmed.
Productivity, on the other hand, focuses on the end goal.
What do you want to achieve?
And what is the end goal?
Get clear on the answer to these questions and clarity will begin to appear.
When you focus on the end-goal, you’ll find that you may not need to do all the things on your “to-do” list.
You’ll also find that you may not need to waste as much as time as you do when you’re focusing on only being busy
It’s nice to tick off a lot of things on your list but you always want to move the big things first.
The big things are what make the greatest impact and stop you feeling overwhelmed.
When you move them, the small things tend to follow or become irrelevant.
The big things on your list are what create momentum.
They are what create a shift – especially when you’re not sure what your end goal looks like; And, they are what can help clarify the direction and the “next step.” that you need to take to get your outcome.
It’s a habit that a majority of us have to turn everything into a self-esteem or self-worth project.
But when you’re dealing with anxiety, it’s all about deciding on which actions are worth paying attention to.
It’s got nothing to do with your self-worth or how you “feel” about those actions. Instead, it’s about the end goal and taking action that moves you in the direction of achieving it.
Your job is to show up, engage with it and do the best you can to find easy ways to make it happen.
In other words, try to find ways of enjoying it as well.
Understand that these actions don’t have anything to do with your self-worth.
They don’t say anything about WHO you are.
They’re all parts of “projects” that you show up and work on.
So if you catch yourself saying things like:
“I feel like I’m a failure because I should be doing xyzzy…”
“I feel guilty because I feel like I should be doing…”
Then you’re turning your manufacturing project into a self-esteem project.
They are two separate things.
Feeling overwhelmed comes when you mistake one for the other.
There’s a temptation to keep going until it’s all done. But fresh ideas, perspectives and solutions come when you take some time out.
This is where you give yourself a chance to have a clear mind.
And this is also where you give your innate wisdom a chance to show up and lift the heavy boulders for you.
Sometimes, when you feel like you’re stuck and can’t find a way forward – even when there’s so much to do on your list.
This is where your innate intelligence kicks in to lay out your path of least resistance.
Feeling overwhelmed and stuck doesn’t mean that there’s some big wall in front of you – even though it seems that way,
It most often means that you’re stuck thinking a particular thought and can’t seem to move past it.
And it also means you’re depending on willpower and motivation to power through.
But our greatest strength doesn’t lie with our willpower. It lies with what is constant – our innate intelligence. And when you’re working with it, navigating life seems a lot easier.
Give yourself time.
Take a break from logic and intellect and take a break from what you “think” you know.
Give yourself space for a new perspective.
The things on your to-do list may be actions that you do to get future results… but you have to find a way to stay focused and present whilst you do them.
Dealing with anxiety and overwhelm comes when you tell yourself scary stories about the future in your head.
You know what I’m talking about right?
Most of us coast through our present moment.
50-70% of our thoughts are about what “could happen” in the future and the rest is about the past.
We live in our heads most of the time.
The fact that you feel overwhelmed may not necessarily mean that you have a lot of things to do,
It may have more to do with what you “think” you have to do.
Based on the stories about the future that you tell yourself, you can easily create chaos and overwhelm for yourself at the present moment.
Focus on NOW.
Show up at this moment.
The story you’re scaring yourself with is only one of many possibilities and it doesn’t exist.
Show up NOW. Engage with NOW. Keep moving in the direction of what you want.
In her new book:
Boston University clinical psychologist Ellen Hendriksen, shares a simple ‘5-4-3-2-1’ mindfulness trick.
She says how it works is that in essence, you tick your way through your five senses and:
As you do this , you’ll notice that you’re back to the present moment and interrupted your anxious and overwhelming thoughts..
Well worth giving a try next time you’re feeling a little overwhelmed to bring you back to the present moment.
Sometimes, we are the ones that make things harder on ourselves than they need to be.
Even though we’re all working towards the future, you need to know that you’re not 100% responsible for the outcome.
Contrary to what the world tells you, as you show up and engage, the world shows up to your actions.
Beautiful coincidences begin to occur.
That’s the way it works.
What would you do differently if you knew that you’re only ever responsible for 51% of the outcome?
How would you show up?
Because that’s really what it’s all about.
Although it seems otherwise, you’re only ever responsible for a part of the total outcome – No matter the effort you put in.
The rest, you’ll have to trust will come together regardless of what you do.
Unexpected events are nothing to be afraid of. You always have everything you need to stir your ship back on course as quickly as possible …but only if you allow it to happen.
I’m Elizabeth Archibong. A Nigerian girl obsessed setting the rules on fire to create life and results from a place of ease and a path of least resistance. I teach people how to see themselves more simply and accurately. So that they can create and get more of the things that they want.