I’ll start this by saying:
Finding purpose in life is overrated.
Yes, I know it sounds awful but bear with me and I’ll show you why finding your purpose in life is not quite what you think it is…
…and what you can do instead to have that stable, secure and fulfilling life filled with amazing experiences that you crave.
Let’s get to it.
We assume that once we figure out what our purpose is, everything else in our lives will be okay
Because we only need to follow that path to the end destination.
But the nature of life is that everything changes.
Everything is fluid.
It unfolds moment by moment.
And in each moment, based on the events taking place…
You’ll have a clearer picture of what you want and where you want to go next.
But it only happens moment by moment.
The conflict you feel is that you want certainty.
And you believe that certainty comes when you have a path or purpose that you can follow.
But there’s no such thing as “life purpose.”
There are only experiences and realities that you create for yourself moment by moment.
And when you show up to each moment, the path opens up even more and the next step presents itself.
If you don’t believe that there’s no such thing as having a life purpose that you need to find…
I personally started out wanting to be a doctor…
Then I found out that I had a tendency to faint or get dizzy at the sight of blood (much to my father’s disappointment).
My next “purpose in life” was to go into investment banking.
I realised quickly that I don’t do well in situations like those either (or I chose not to).
So, onwards to starting my own business.
In the last 14 years, I have run multiple businesses.
Some were successful and some weren’t.
The point here is:
For each of these instances in my life, I thought I had found my life purpose.
I thought I had found the path that would allow me to grow, succeed and get what I thought I needed for security.
And as you can see, the path changed a lot.
But the one thing that remained constant in all this change was that :
I always knew deep down what I wanted.
I didn’t always have the courage to accept it, but I always knew deep down what I wanted.
As I often say to clients, when you know what you don’t want, you begin to have a fair idea of what you DO want.
The question is no longer about not knowing what you want but rather, if you’re willing to give yourself permission to move forward…
Even if it doesn’t make sense to everyone around you.
Because that’s usually where the problem is when it comes to finding life purpose.
It’s not that you don’t know this…
The problem is that you allow so many other things to get in the way.
You distract yourself with questions about finding purpose in life because …
Most often you’re unwilling to give yourself permission to move forward with what is staring at you straight in the face.
Most of us spend so much time seeking outside validation for things that are important to us…
But we always discount the most important voice – our innate wisdom.
This wisdom isn’t something we have to chase or strive for…
It is a part of us.
A part of the essence of who we are.
Our core nature.
Think of it as part of your factory default system.
The world has taught us to value only our logic and intellect.
But most often, what we need – especially in situations like this is:
The inner knowing that is a core but often ignored part of us.
Well, it’s not as complicated as most of us like to think.
There is nothing that you need to do.
In fact, the less you do, the more you hear it.
The reason why we don’t hear it is because we’re always lost in the past or trying to predict the future.
When you’re focused on the present moment, that’s when your wisdom shows up with you.
It is the one that lays the path of least resistance.
In that moment that you allow yourself to let go of a particular thought that keeps you stuck, it will show up.
When you focus on trying to predict the future, you take yourself away from your default nature of innate peace and a clear mind.
And as you take yourself away from that place of a clear mind, you also take yourself away from your innate wisdom.
And that’s when you begin to ask questions about finding life purpose and seek outside validation.
And getting a clear mind means ALLOWING yourself to discard what doesn’t exist to focus on what does.
And what always exists is your true nature.
It never changes no matter what thoughts pass through your mind moment by moment.
What always exists is THIS present moment and nothing else.
When you can see the truth of these two simple facts, you’ll know and feel how stable you always are – no matter comes at you on the outside…
…And no matter what turns your path takes you.
9 times out of 10, the majority of us – myself included, float through our present moments.
We focus on the past or scare ourselves silly with thoughts of unwanted future outcomes.
We’re always in our heads, thinking about things that no longer exist or have yet to exist.
And what I’ve come to realise about finding life purpose and living life with ease is this:
There will be less chaos in your mind and so less need for validation.
If from time to time, you remind yourself of what is true for us all as humans beings…
You’ll find that you do have all you need to face those “tough” and uncertain situations.
You do have all you need to lay your path to fufill any desire.
And what is true for us all is that we are not the experiences that we create.
So we don’t need to find a life purpose to wrap around WHO we are.
You don’t need a life purpose to define you or create your identity.
You are ALREADY more.
Your self-esteem and self-worth are already intact and whole.
And they are separate from everything that you set out do and achieve in this world.
When you begin to see yourself in this way, you’ll understand that the only thing that is required of you is :
To ALLOW yourself to be present at THIS moment.
It doesn’t mean you won’t have goals and aspirations.
On the contrary…
We’ve already seen that this is a natural thing that happens when you are faced with what you don’t want.
You automatically know what you DO want.
When you allow yourself to be present at this moment, you’ll show up better and get more insights into any situation the face.
And insights are the key.
They come as a result of your clear mind.
They are what ensure that you do less than you think you need to do in any situation.
They are what give you an innate understanding or perception of the situation that you face.
They are what provide clarity.
You take action from a place of bold confidence.
You trust that all you need to know will present itself to you at the right moment.
And the way the system is designed means that 100% of the time, all you need to know WILL present itself to you.
The question is, Will you choose to respond to it or will you keep looking on the outside?
I’ll end this by saying again:
You already know what you want and you already have an idea what your next step is going to be.
Those two pieces of information are all you need to move forward at any given time to create the life that you want.
I’m Elizabeth Archibong. A Nigerian girl obsessed setting the rules on fire to create life and results from a place of ease and a path of least resistance. I teach people how to see themselves more simply and accurately. So that they can create and get more of the things that they want.