When it comes to how to change your life or how to reinvent yourself, age and time are not nearly as important as a majority of us think they are.
Resistance to change comes when we’re focused on time and how little of it is in our control.
I’m going to share with you a simple but effective way of how to change you life and create transformation with as little resistance as possible to your process.
Let’s get started.
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So, last month, I celebrated was my birthday.
Apart from the slight overindulgence of coconut rice and cream cakes, there was one thing that stood out for me.
And it was the absence of the usual noise that comes during this period.
In the past, I would have been knee-deep in a mental audit of my life and what I had achieved so far.
And I would berate myself for not being where I should be at this age and probably be slightly sad that time was running away from me.
I don’t know when things changed.
But for the past few years, I’ve found that I’m not so concerned with my age and more importantly with time because I’ve been seeing something new about this.
The reason I’ve chosen this topic of age and time for today’s conversation is that a majority of the people that write to me always seem mention in some shape or form their age and time.
At one end, I have women in their 40’s, 50’s and 60’s that tell me they haven’t done as much with their lives as they would have liked and they feel like they don’t have much time to create the change they want.
And at the other end of the scale, I have women in their 20’s and 30’s who also feel like time is getting away from them and they’re not achieving all they “think” they should.
In both cases, there seems to be a fight with time and there also seems to be a consensus that there isn’t much of it available.
“Your age only points to how long you’ve been travelling in this time and place.
It doesn’t say anything fundamental about WHO you are, your self-worth or the context of the journey that has already taken place.
It’s just simply a marker of the journey.”
“90% of the problem, is figuring out how to “think” about the problem”
And when it comes to time, a misconception that a majority of us have is that it is a tangible resource.
When you’re thinking about time in this way, it’s easy to see why some might feel like they don’t have so much of it left.
It’s also easy to see why the feeling of desperation and fear might crop up when we think of our age and corresponding achievements.
But what if a different way to “think” about time was not to see it as part of the equation in your transformation process?
If you’ve been hanging out with me long enough, you’ll know that I keep banging on about alignment to your innate wisdom and the paths of least resistance that come as a result of that.
Your focus on time is focusing on something that is and will always be out of your control.
And by nature, your mind doesn’t like things that it cannot control.
So, it will create a resistance to anything linked to that which it cannot control.
This is what keeps you stuck longer than you need to be when trying to create change in any part of your life.
It is what gets you out of alignment with your true self.
And it is what makes it much more difficult to recognise the paths of least resistance that crop up moment by moment to get you to your destination.
Time is simply an arbitrary marker of your creative process and not a compulsory component as you might believe.
The less you focus on creative components that are not in your control like the when who and how...
…The more the transformation you seek becomes a continuous and naturally unfolding process.
Just like when you wake up, you never really have to wonder if there is enough air to breathe because it’s just a natural thing that you do without thinking about it.
“Transformation or change” without the constant action of thinking about arbitrary time markers, begins to become that natural unfolding process as well.
And in the process, you’ll also begin to feel the longer periods of clarity, calm and peace that always seem so elusive.
For the next 3-7 days, when it comes to the change you want to see in your life, take time out your thought process.
Focus more on what you want.
Notice what comes up for you moment by moment.
Clarity, change and transformation become much easier when you understand power of deliberate creation.
Focus on what matters and discover more meaning. The anxiety-free way of creating security.
I’m Elizabeth Archibong. A Nigerian girl obsessed setting the rules on fire to create life and results from a place of ease and a path of least resistance. I teach people how to see themselves more simply and accurately. So that they can create and get more of the things that they want.